What do overwhelm, fatigue, people-pleasing, perfectionism, irritation, and the need for control all have in common?
They’re all core indicators of wounded feminine energy.
Now, before you hear this and assume that there’s something “wrong” with you, I want you to know that you’re not alone.
All of us are carrying some layer of wounded feminine energy.
Like scars, these feminine wounds collect over years of living and being in the body. They come through your relationship with your parents, your friends, your bosses, your lovers… they slowly shape how you move through the world. Soon they cut deep enough to manifest as toxic patterns that crop up in the most inconvenient times. For example;
→ A woman who grew up feeling like she was never enough might wrestle with the wound of perfectionism.
→ A woman who grew up with a single working mom, might become fiercely independent to the point of isolation.
→ A woman who grew out of a toxic relationship may still feel the need to prove her worth through people-pleasing & over-giving.
No matter how these wounds enter, they can only be healed through awareness.
That’s exactly why I wanted to cover this topic.
I’m not here to tell anyone that they are broken or damaged or need to be “fixed”, I’m simply here to invite you into a deeper level of self-awareness.
With this awareness, you can fully transmute your feminine wounds in order to reclaim your power and finally break the cycle.
Ready to begin the journey to healing your wounded feminine energy?
Learn to receive.
Is there an area of your life that you’ve been controlling, resisting, or trying to carry all on your own? If so, I invite you to loosen your grip and ask for help. Ask a friend to bring you dinner. Bring another team member into your business. Ask your partner to hold you. Hire a coach to support you.
It seems we are living in a time where we have lost touch with the art of receiving. We live in an era where women are supposed to be strong, independent, and self-sufficient – this is a beautiful thing! It shows that we are ascending into the age of the Divine Feminine.
At the same time, it creates an unhealthy pressure for women to have it "all together".
You’re left feeling like you have to be Super Woman!
Work a corporate job, climb the ladder, build a business on the side, work 40+ hours a week, have 2.5 kids, maintain your marriage, and work out 5x a week while still finding time to wash the dishes & do the laundry!?
That’s a lot for one woman to carry on her own.
So, don’t be afraid to open up and receive support from others and from the universe.
This is the beginning to healing wounded feminine energy.
- Slow down and reflect.
- Let go of the attachment to the story of how you think things should be. Often times we ask the universe for what we desire and then we delay / block it from coming in due to our attachments to how we think it should happen. The universe can provide infinite ways for our desires to manifest, we just have to be willing to let go of the how and flow with the creative shifts.
The wounded “Super Woman” feminine is always in motion. She doesn't create space to breathe, play, dance, or be in her body. That’s why she’s still spinning around in circles, unaware of the patterns bubbling up beneath the surface.
You have to learn to slow down ( this is the LEVEL UP ) if you want to begin the process of healing your feminine energy.
You can start with simple actions like breath work, journalling through your emotions, create space for rest, and drop into your body through gentle movement.
Your feminine energy (and your nervous system!) will thank you.
Next step to begin the journey to healing your wounded feminine energy...
One of the ways wounded feminine energy manifests is through seriousness or rigidity.
Shake that off by playfully creating like a kid again!
Release your inner child through finger painting, singing, kitchen dance parties, playing in nature, doodling, or popping on your favorite childhood movie. Do whatever you need to get out of your head and into the present moment. The gift of the feminine is the gift of being able to laugh, play, and FEEL without hesitation.
Often times as we practice this, we can start to feel guilt rise in our chest. Stirring up thoughts like...
Is this productive?
Aren’t I too old for this?
Don’t I have more important things to do?
Let these thoughts pass you like clouds. Allow the energy to move through you.
Repeat this affirmation over yourself as they arrive:
My joy is productive, my rest is productive, and my play is productive. I am worthy of receiving happiness & healing.
At the end of the day, the journey to feminine healing is not a process or a formula, or a set of rules. It is an embodied experience that starts with being present. It doesn’t happen in the mind and it cannot be forced – your path to healing is unraveled through loving awareness.
Finally, to begin the journey to healing your wounded feminine energy...
Start honoring your intuition.
We have been conditioned for far too long that our mind is the master and to suppress the wisdom of our inner voice. When we learn to feel first and then take action, the game changes.
Thoughts like these should be honored and not just tossed aside...
Have I been true to myself?
Is there something more I am here to do?
What’s with all the signs, numbers and synchronicities?
As you begin to trust your intuition more, the natural healing process begins. You just have to be willing to listen to that first call.. You know the one... the call from your heart asking you to follow.
Looking for more information or support on your path to feminine healing?
The Awakening Woman Empowerment Course is available for women who are ready to transcend feminine wounds, own their power, and awaken their intuitive gifts in an embodied way.
Over 37 lessons, I uncover everything you need to know about becoming the woman you were designed to be.
If you’re feeling called for a more personal 1:1 approach, I encourage you to check out 1:1 total transformation coaching.
The high priestess is aware of her energy. No one has to tell her anything because she just knows. She invites the creation and aligns with the next chapter of her life, that’s what you’re being called towards. Keep listening.